The Bull$hit we've been sold about Love.

We’ve been lied to.

We’ve been sold.

Sold a false narrative of love—Of union.

Of “happily ever after.”

We were sold the image of the helpless woman waiting in a tower—for someone to come rescue her.

To save her.

To make her life worth living.

That story is bullshit.

Now, I’m not saying you can’t have a fairytale romance if that’s what you desire—but let’s be clear: It is not the only way and it is not what will truly fulfill you.

Let me say it plainly:

Falling in love with another human being, without God, is a kind of hell.

Because when we make another human being our idol—We suffer.

When we obsess over their opinions...Need their approval to feel okay...Idealize them, ignore their flaws, inflate their significance...We over-invest energetically.We arrange our lives around them.We abandon ourselves.

We minimize our own needs, desires, and truths just to stay close.

To feel safe.

To not be left.

I know this cycle—I’ve lived it.

I’ve “fallen in love” with the wrong man more times than I want to admit.

Why?

Because I was making men my idol.

I thought marriage would save me

.That if I could just get married and have kids—then, finally, I could start my life.

But the idea of marriage as a path to happiness and fulfillment?

That’s the real lie.

Not because love or marriage can’t be beautiful—But because if you look to any relationship outside of Source for your wholeness,You will be left aching.

Empty.

Disappointed.

And here’s the part that might sting:

No one else is responsible for your feelings.

Let that land.

Because when we hand someone else the power to make us feel okay, we give away the throne of our own soul.

It’s time to reclaim it.

We must first stop apologizing for our needs.

Stop shrinking.

Stop minimizing our wants, desires, and boundaries just to make others comfortable.

Instead—We must begin to give them space.

To breathe.To be seen.To be heard.To be honored.

Because what we need matters.

What we want is valid.

And what we desire holds wisdom.

You do not have to earn the right to exist fully.

You already do.

If you’ve lived a life rooted in self-abandonment—I hate to be the bearer of bad news, but breaking that cycle?

It’s one of the hardest things you’ll ever do.

Because choosing yourself after a lifetime of choosing others feels like betrayal.

Feels like loss.

Feels like you’re doing something wrong.

But you’re not.

You’re finally doing something right.

So here I am—Admitting my truth, to be a guide. A roadmap.

A mirror, so you can find your way back home to yourself.

I’m on this journey too.

I’m not perfect.

I’m learning.

I’m growing.

I fall, I rise, I reflect.

But if my honesty helps you choose you a little more boldly—Then it’s all worth it.

So if you’re standing at the edge—tired, heart-worn, wondering if it’s too late to come back to yourself.

Let this be your sign: It’s not too late.

You are not broken.

You are not too much.

You are not behind.

You are awakening.

You are remembering that your worth was never meant to be proven through someone else’s love.

You are the one you’ve been waiting for.

And from this place—of wholeness, of truth, of reclaimed power—Love can still bloom.

But this time, it will be rooted in something real.

Not fantasy.

Not dependency.

Not illusion.

But you.

Fully seen.

Fully chosen.

By you.

That’s where the real love story begins.

Love,

Ellörin Joy with assistance of Chat Gpt